Teacher-parents talk

How often do you talk to parents? When was the last time you phoned to congratulate them on the good grade Johnny received on his math test or Maria's reading unit test. Parents don't usually expect calls from their child's teacher unless there is a problem. No wonder parents get a feeling of anxiety when they hear your voice on the phone. Parents aren't the only ones; teachers get the same anxious feeling when they call home.
I recall meeting with my teachers at the beginning of every school year to review the importance of two way communication. Without fail a high percentage of teachers felt that parent communication is one of their biggest challenges. And now with  the news media avalanche, on failing school, low scores, budget cuts, increased class size, teachers names appearing in the newspapers, parents are demanding more from their schools. Our troubled economy is making it more difficult for all of us in education and individual schools and teachers are receiving the brunt of this discontent. The present situation is rife with misunderstandings, flare ups and hot tempers.  We all need help in managing this troubled terrain.
Here are some ideas designed to help us as educators. Perhaps you have more:

- Don't wait until the first reporting period.  Meet your parents as soon as the new year begins. Establishing dialog with parents early creates good-will for you as well as your students.
- A misconception: As long as kids don't give you problems it's OK to wait; not so. It is your responsibility to meet parents promptly before potential problems begin.
- "I have an open door policy. Parents can come in any time"; not really! setting up appointments to meet parents is more courteous and professional.
- "If I have a problem with a student, I'll let my principal know first."  Remember that you are the one whom the child needs to respect you are the boss. Passing problems to the principal diminishes your authority in the eyes of the parent and the students.
Building a positive relationship between you, the teacher, and the parents of your students enhances your standing in the community and school. You are seen as a professional who cares. In turn, they will care for you... especially when it comes to allocation of district and school budgets.